Holidays can be a difficult time for families who are experiencing any kind of emotional upheaval. I have known many families who have found getting through the holidays especially difficult while dealing with a recent diagnosis of disability, or having one of their children ill over the holidays. During the Thanksgiving / Christmas / New Year Holiday season of 1986, our son George was hospitalized. It was very difficult to muster up any holiday spirit as we dealt with his infections, surgeries, and the daily ups and downs of a preemie weighing only 1 pound, 6 ounces. We found the only way to get through the holidays were to adapt them to fit our new family responsibilities. So this year I have tried to put down on paper some "Holiday Tips for Families Experiencing An Emotional Upheaval." If anyone knows of someone who might benefit from these wisdoms please pass them on. Thanks Nina Baker for your added input while I developed these ideas. Annie Adamson.
- Keep it simple.
- Take each day one at a time.
- Don't be afraid to adapt the usual holiday routine for what will work best for your family this year.
- If you need normalcy, pick some traditions and stick to them.
- If you need change, start a new simpler tradition.
- Have someone else do the hosting.
- Eliminate your traveling.
- Ask for help doing things like: shopping, wrapping, cooking.
- Don't send out Christmas cards this year.
- Adapt the holidays to your surroundings, especially if you find yourself in a hospital setting.
- Have a neighbor or friend include your kids in a fun holiday preparation at their home.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY - Do whatever you feel is right for your own immediate family, even if others don't understand.